Good Morning Siestas!
This week we have a treat - Beth has done a video for us! You can watch the video here and then see the questions for this week below.
If you haven't already, go to the LPM blog for the post on Week 4 (link is at right) to see what Beth has written before the questions.
Let's take Beth's advice and get past beating ourselves up over the ways insecurity has made a fool of us! It's time to get some freedom!
So Long Insecurity Discussion from LPV on Vimeo.
Okay, here are this week's questions:
Since Beth is giving you four this time around, she says you're welcome, if you prefer, to pick two of them to answer in your comment:
1. What part of Chapter 7 hit home with you most and why?
2. (If you're choosing only two, please include this one.) Based on your journey so far in chapters 1-8, list your own personal top three reasons why it's time to deal with your insecurity. (We're not looking for right answers. We're looking for YOUR answers. Don't copy off your fellow sojourners' papers on this one. Grin.) So that you don't get your numbers confused here, list your 3 reasons under A.B.&C.
3. Based on Chapter 8, briefly describe a recent trigger of insecurity and whether or not it got a rise out of you.
4. Also based on Chapter 8, what does dignity mean to you?
I just wanted to share with y'all what I posted on the blog this morning. Obviously, I have more to deal with than I realized. :)
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Answers later but after watching the video, I had to comment. My previous comments have indicated that I don't deal with a PROFOUND insecurity, although I am aware of the areas of my life in which I am insecure. However, I had to tell you that in the beginning of the video, when you said you needed to address a comment that a siesta had made, I thought, "oh, no, did I say something?!" I guess I'm dealing with more than I realized. :) I wonder how many other siestas had that thought. Also, I am participating in the Living Beyond Yourself Bible study and yesterday was the Week 9 video in which you discuss letting God bind up our wounds and bring healing to our broken places. I was convicted that I needed to get to some serious time with God and ask him to reveal to me what wounds I might have (and be unaware of) so that He could bind them up. Then, this morning you mention God enlightening us so that He can clean out the wounds and heal them. When I hear a message twice, I KNOW I need to listen up!! Thanks for delivering the message.
Hi Siestas!
ReplyDeleteI didn't comment last week because I had some "life" stuff going on -- I had visitors from Norway for almost a week, and then one of my closest friends had a heart attack and quadruple bypass surgery -- and almost didn't make it.
Yesterday is the first chance I've had to read your comments from Week 3 -- and I have to say I was so moved and inspired! Thank each of you for sharing -- I can't tell you how real it makes all of this. And Judi -- thanks for sharing about your tea -- you are awesome!!!
I am behind in my reading and answering the questions -- but have earmarked a chunk of time on Saturday to spend with this. I will post then.
In the meantime -- I have to say it again -- thanks for your posts -- I'm blessed to be part of this special group.
Judy B.
Houston
Hi Georgine - I honestly did not think that when I saw the video......but I bet a lot of women did, and I'm sure that Beth knows it could apply to a lot of the comments that were left.
ReplyDeleteJudy - whenever you can get on here, its a bonus for us! I really enjoy what you have to say.
All of you, I have to share this because I'm so excited...Remember that I'm starting the Revelation study next week? Well, I printed flyers and made them available at the Tea for women to take as invitations. And I put a little ad in the "community events" section of the local newspaper, which came out today.
That's all the advertising I've done, and so far 6 women have registered for the morning session and 9 for the evening!!!! I don't know if I can even hold 9 in my family room, but we'll sure try! This is totally a God thing, because I prayed that HE would draw the women to the study that He wants there, not me.
I was reading some of the comments on the LPM blog this morning and my heart just broke. Insecurity has such a huge hold on so many women. One comment said we need to get angry, really angry at this hold on us and take the steps to heal. Amen!
ReplyDeleteI would have been spared a lot of heartache if I had understood much earlier in my life.
1. The part of chapter 7 that hit me the most was that for so many of the categories I could write my own examples, past or present. I was overwhelmed with the deception of it all. As I was reading and writing and thinking through my own examples for the categories in the chapter, John 8:32 was spoken repeatedly and emphatically in my spirit;
ReplyDelete"Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."
2 A. It isn't working. The cycle of insecurity doesn't make me prettier, skinnier, smarter, more successful, a better mom/wife/friend...
B. I desire to love people deeply with God's love, not merely compete with them.
C. I don't believe that God wants me to live this way.
3. I was trying on clothes for a holiday we are going on...thinking who I would be on the holiday with (loving people whom I love and they love me, it really is my issue.) It was such a mental fight. It is so easy to say the verses in one breath and then indulge in self consciousness the next. It is a FIGHT to not budge; to turn away!! It will take practise and God's intervention to refuse the lies and to believe the Truth.
4. Dignity is a gift God gave when He created each one of us in His image and for His purpose. It makes sense that if we would love God and love each other that we would respect and highly esteem each other; that we would see ourselves in this same splendour. Mark 9:24b, "I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!"
1, The part of ch 7 that hit home the most with me was that Insecurity can takl us into doing things we don't even want to do (p124)
ReplyDeleteI can think of a lot of bad decisions that I made due to insecurity, thinking I was taking my life in an exciting direction, but finally I realized I was spinning in a downward spiral.
2. Its time to deal with my insecurities because A) I want my daughter to not have to battle insecurities that she learned from me
B) I never realized it was such an epidemic
C) I don't want the enemy, who is the Father of lies, to get the victory in this
3. A recent trigger of insecurity: (actually I'm not sure if this is pride or insecurity) About a week ago when I went into someone's office to ask for some information and the woman at the desk made me feel like I didn't belong there and shouldn't be bothering them. Did it get a rise? You bet - I barely got out of that office before the tears stung my eyes.
4. I liked what Beth said at the end of Ch 8: "Our posession of dignity is not always something we feel. It's got to be something we know. Something we emphatically claim."
Judi
1. The part of Ch. 7 that hit home the most with me is "women who hide themselves behind a masculine exterior so no one can get to their vulnerable female interior." I feel secure as long as I am in charge, am not vulnerable, or needy. I can't cry in front of others. I always have to be the strong one. But this is all a cover for insecurity.
ReplyDelete2. It is time to deal with my insecurities because A) I need to continue to get rid of my self sufficiency and learn to trust God. B) To believe in my heart that God delights in me and wants good for me, and I don't have to perform to earn it! C) I want to be able to become a vulnerable woman - even around those who might hurt me. And when they do hurt me, to not allow my heart to become hard.
3. A recent trigger for me was a few weeks ago when my daughter's band director completely dismissed me and talked down to me, even though I am a respected band director myself. I see how if I am not respected for my "performance" I feel like I have no worth.
4. What does dignity mean to me? That I am clothed with dignity even when I feel naked and vulnerable. My God thinks I am worthy of honor and esteem no matter what I do.
I liked what she said on p. 149 "This isn't about getting your game on. It's about responding in a whole new way on the basis of a developing belief system that is making its way into our heads but is still on route to our hearts." I am able to grasp things in my head, but I need it to go down into my heart where I really believe it, not just give lip service to it.
Thanks gals for your vulnerability in sharing!
Robin
Durant, OK
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Married
1. What part of Chapter 7 hit home with you most and why?
Insecurity can confine us.
I want to have real friendships and talk to people, but sometimes, when I try, I do say the wrong thing, so then I'm just always afraid I will, or just don't know how to make conversation.
2. I had to add one. . .I couldn't choose one of these 4 to leave off. I first didn't have the D., but hearing my 20 year old daughter say that a co-discipleship leader intimidated her at first, and other signs of her insecurity, make me have to include it!
A. I want to live the Abundant life that God planned for me.
B. I want to Be a servant for God, giving Him glory and minister to others.
C. I want to Cultivate friendships.
D. I DON'T want to pass on insecurity to my children, students, children, youth, college students at church, anyone!
4.
To me,
Dignity means clothing yourself with the strength God gives you daily.
TO TELL THE TRUTH TUESDAY
ReplyDeleteWell, I got a couple of you to reply to me last week, and I have something that is bugging me now, so I'm going to do this again.
I had said on my response to Beth Moore's question last week of what my 2 most primary roots of my struggle with insecurity are. . .
fear of rejection and disposition.
I listened to chapter 6 again in the car and realized that Beth said we all have a pride problem, and I could relate to everything she said about
PRIDE.
It even seems that Pride might be the cause of my fear of rejection.
I can be a very humble person, but I am owning my Pride Problem, too!
1. The part in Chapter 7 that hit home with me the most was that insecurity can confine us. I let fear confine me and keep me from doing things I know I should/could do.
ReplyDelete2. My top three reasons for dealing with my insecurity NOW are A) I am tired of living in fear of what others think and how I will be judged B) Beth's book and simulcast, and this bookstudy, are available right now to hold me accountable, and without that I may let fear win C) I am to the point in my faith that I want to live the life God created for me. I want to grow as a Christian and make an impact in the world for Him. I cna't do this when insecurity is holding me back.
3. In our Sunday School class last Sunday I was nervous about praying out loud in a small group, like we had done the previous week. All through the class I couldn't concentrate, could only focus on what I was going to pray about that wouldn't sound foolish.
4. Dignity is being a person you are proud of.
Hi everyone, I had a busier than normal weekend with my daughter-in-law and 3 of my grandkids visiting so didn't get to the blog. I want to say how much I appreciate each of you and your honesty and vulnerability. I think that is a huge step in the direction of security!!
ReplyDelete1. Chp. 7 hit home with me in the area of insecurity confining us. In my younger years I was so controlled by fear that I let it keep me from many experiences I now know I would have enjoyed.
2. top 3 reasons:
a. as women we need to get over our insecurity so we can work together, support and encourage each other rather than compete.
b.I want to be a secure role model for my daughter, daughters-in-law, granddaughters and the other women in my life
c. I want to live the life God has prepared for me to live in service to Him
Dignity is knowing that I am valuable and have great worth just because God gave me life. It has nothing to do with what I do, it is all about Him.
Lynn, I said "amen" when I read what you wrote about being a role model. I also want to be a secure role model to my daughter, daughter-in-law.....,and all the women who follow behind me!! What a great goal to have in life and a legacy to pass on.
ReplyDeleteMe again, I so want to post on this but I'm so far behind in my reading, life has been well life the past week, I'm behind in it all! I'll try to catch up over the weekend. But alas, tomorrow is another new one! It comes too fast.
ReplyDeleteI love all your posts! Robin, I so get the "being in charge thing", I struggle with that too, I think it stems from being abandoned and being afraid to trust others with anything I need, so I'll just do it myself. Isn't that the way it's always been. In the Esther study, Beth talked about it's tough being a woman "who feels responsible for the how", boy has that been me. I think it also stems from PRIDE, oh, how I hate that word. God has been working with me on that, it's hard.
I so want not to care what others think about me, how I look, what I say, what I'm doing. I know He wants me securely confident in who I am in Him alone. Then I'll be able to take those risks he's asked me to and jump off the diving board, even though I'm afraid and I don't see any water.....until I jump, yikes!
I hope I'll have more insight after I catch up and have read these chapters. Thanks for sharing so honestly everyone, I wish we could all have coffee together and chat in person! I know I'd be blessed by it!
Oh, one more thing Ladies, my husband Doug has a second job interview tomorrow in the town we really want to live in, it's at 11am Thurs, would ya'll pray? We so need it after a year of searching for full-time work!
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Praying right now Sandi!
ReplyDeletePraying Sandi.
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